INTROVERTS

                           Dedicated to: All introverts

Let’s go!
No...I think I'm okay this way
Aren't you bored?
No, I'm not
I'm an introvert.

Our lifestyle seems boring to the populace. We love being alone and reminiscing, focusing on our own feelings, minds and affairs. Deep thoughts keeps creeping its way in and then we have lots of secret just because we have few friends around. Its pays us being ourselves-sitting, eating, talking, playing, reading, singing alone has been our hobby ever since even though it’s never other people's kind of life. We are reserved and would rather spend our time on a single activity rather than multitasking. 

We prefer being ourselves to social situations. You would never see us come out to the dancing floor in a party and dance like others would do or volunteering in social issues. We go deep thinking. Yes! We are shy, but not always. We seem coded and some people think we are complicated, not until they have close intact with us. When other friends keep playing around and catching fun, you won't find us there and even if some of us get to play along with them, we pull out when it’s getting too long.

Everyone is gone out to see one friend or the other, but we are still in the room, thinking of things that don’t have a topic or doing what we like doing when alone.
 

We have just few close ones around that we tend to play so much as we can with and even feel free with them till they tell us we are stubborn.

Parents’ atimes misunderstands us and flare up. But instead of explaining better, we have tears mixed up with our words and they flow uncontrollably all because we want to defend ourselves. How painful! we are emotional and feel very bad when we get hurt. Only few of us learnt how to control our feelings. So many things other people call fun are boring to us.

Even when we have a gorgeous look on us, we don't usually feel we are. We just stay stationed and watch other people move freely. Some of us feel 'I am
Beautiful' while some feels 'I am ugly'

We easily swing moods and sometimes in our lives, it seems we are all alone. We can decide to talk and play today and in the next few minutes or hours, we are back to the cool headed style. Not every one of us is gentle; the truth is 'most of us are gentle while some of us are quiet'. 

So many of us don't feel loved and in that case, we go into reckless relationships when alone, do cruel things and even hate ourselves. Negativity has ruined some of us, while few of us have been able to explore ourselves. 

Our negativity spring out from mistrust, broken heart, the things we long to do and we could not. Our brothers- extroverts have for long stepped on our toes and we couldn’t help but wish they understands us. We are gifted people, who could transform the so called bore moment to sequential imagery that could make life easy for the populace. 

The world transforming technologies, the great works of arts etc are the works of our hands. Life has been made comfortable by us. But we will die of muteness, without continuous motivation from our counterpart extroverts.

Introverts are humans; extroverts should please love them no matter their level of being an introvert. Many of us are that way because we aren't exposed to so many things, some because of challenges or depression and others are just that way, it’s their lifestyle.

To introverts: your life would be a complete mess to all and yourself if you do not have Jesus. I have Jesus and I have lots of specialties in me so how on earth would I hate myself? If you engage yourself in so many Things, you won't feel it even when you are alone.

 You can be a blessing to all even while being a reserved type. While writing this, I've been alone for over two hours and I'm safe even with writing. You are alone doesn't permit you to do bad things, have sex with your heart, think lustfully and the likes. You want love? Jesus truly loves you and when you have him, you won't feel rejected; being shy would be getting out of your dictionary.
 

Remember! You are special; therefore there are treasures in you no one has. I love you all.

MY DREAM, MY GIRL- THE FAST SPENT TIDE

EPISODE 1

Time and tide has passed since the occurrence of "THE EVENT". The sleeping dog wasn't indeed supposed to be awaken, but because closure was the order of the day and as the sun still shine and the little lilies haven't had their floral closed yet, then it must be that the truth be told if not to anyone, then to the sparrows of the sky the whispering of the whirl wind. . it was at the moment a period of reminiscing about the good, the bad and the ugly after all.

Does pain really hurt? I thought to myself rhetorically. My consciousness could easily guess the most probable answer to the question. I gave a deep breath and  had myself relaxed. Falling back in place, I remember the event and various thoughts cascading down my mind. I wondered why it went that way, but my mind had no answer unfortunately. When the unexpected becomes the fate of one, it's never the end of LIFE I concluded in my torment.

It all started when I thought I was man enough to ask a girl out and my taste was one who could be there for me and I for her. or should I say, In my first year, when I met Kemi, whom I fell in love with at first sight.
 It had been at the school auditorium when I first saw her. seeing her my heart throbbed and truly, not because I wasn't grounded in the affairs of wooing but I line with the certain eerie thought that I had found someone I have long been searching for.

She had been having troubles with her file and nobly I offered assistance to her but she wasn't so comfortable with my proposal . to this and maybe because of her naive mindset, she refused my help.

Was I scary looking? I thought to myself. Absolutely no!. My face certainly was not at least.
Even though physical appearances cannot wholly describe a person, I can still attest to the fact that, I was completely harmless without hidden agenda. I concluded within that even if I can't see her now,  we will some other time.

Weeks passed and she was nowhere to be found.  Not until one evening. It was reading hours and I had this uneasiness with sleeping at the reading period and that day I had told myself I was going to be extremely disciplined. All this took place in the lecture theater that is far away from my hostel. I had carefully chose this location because I needed absolute concentration in preparation for the imminent examination. To this time examination time table was already out.

At about 10pm, it dawned on me that I wasn't vehement enough for the task of that day despite my preparations. I decided to change venue to the adjacent class. There she was, burning the candle and making the most of her precious time. I sat for a while staring at her, deciphering her uniqueness and at the same time gumptioning my move towards her. Some minutes later, I walked up to her.


 Hi, kemi. Her warming responses to me scared away my little fears that she could turn me down. I felt absolute that night, like the unperturbed hero.
Everyone needs someone but not everybody is for somebody. Kemi and I chatted up that night, studied together and on the morning that followed, we both left for the hostel.

On our way, I decided to ask for her phone number and unreluctantly, she gave me. We both walked to her hostel before leaving for mine. It was a fulfilled studies for me, I was able to have all deals done.
Nothing can be more beautiful than being loved ,If you entered this world knowing you are loved and left the same, then everything that happened in between can be dealt with

What could this EVENT be?


 EPISODE 2

SELF DISCOVERY

Have you ever found yourself soliloquizing? reminiscing through your entire life and you felt so badly. The this is for your digest. There comes a time in one's life where things could be so rough which usually lead to the state of retrospection. This fact is usually severe in the introverted folks. Matters arising from different walks of life which of course are not the motivating ones. This could spam into one monologue-ing oneself and thus glistering the ever condemning questions: why wasn't I created so handsome,beautiful, intelligent? et cetera, and you wailed: why me oh! God.
All of this will come to ruminate your mind when you have not find out who you are, what you can do and what God has placed inside you. Hence the why of self discovery.
Self discovery is the

act or process of achieving understanding or knowledge of oneself. It

most difficult of all human knowledge. Many live other persons lives because they don't know who they are. Do you want to stand out in the world?  Then take time to studying yourself. The first step to becoming better than what you are now is to get yourself  known. Self-discovery and self-knowledge are the stepping stones to self-conquest. It is quite difficult to conquer oneself, but once that is done, everything is conquered.

It is a fact that most people do not know themselves correctly and clearly , Perhaps no one has a thorough self-knowledge, but one can have acceptable degree of it. To some, real and genuine knowledge can be disturbing and humiliating, that is why some shy away from knowing who they really are.
A story was told of a couple who went to an art gallery museum. The husband man after giving a good compliments to creative arts done by artists went to the other sampling corridor which was decorated with mirror. As he walked in, unknowingly to him, seeing  his look, he was filled with fury and called his wife to check it out. Furiously he exclaimed "who did this painting? how could the curator have kept such an ugly work here"  he continue with his sacarstic remarks about the portrait.The wife chuckled, and said to him come on, you are looking at the mirror.

This is clear truth that many are not happy with their external looks, and they say to themselves 'if am like this externally, how or what could the inside be like' they tends to shy away from looking within.
Apart from ones looks, other things been equal. Other attribute does not tells who one really is.
    Sometimes ago in a philosophy class, a guy was asked "who are you?" at first he was  lost in his thought, not until, some few minutes later when he regain his conciousness. Am Wellington, he replied! One fact we have to clear here is that, you could have a beautiful and sweet sounding name, but that does not really depicts your actual self..  I can all be an ugly and a bitter person, but that does not tell who I am and all that I can be; it does not  wholly describe me or reveal me. Who am I, then? I may say, "I am a student, a teacher, a professor, a Pharmacist, a Doctor et cetera. Again my job is not myself, am not my work, am not the activities I does. Though it may qualifies me to a certain degree. An anxiom says 'where we go and what we do advertise ourselves'  One fact still remain a truth, that our real self cannot be totally measured by our activities.

   In each person, there is something of a mystery, something that cannot be easily disencrytpted, decipher and inexhaust. Interestingly, we might say, I am my body, mind, will, heart, abilities, talents qualities, virtues, attitudes,  ambition (what I want to make of myself) and approaches.
 "what one is God's gift to one,and what one make of oneself is one's gift to God"

 "KNOW THYSELF" is a popular axiom credited to Socrates

(A Greek philosopher) during a conversation that transpired between him and the Delphic oracle(goddess). After telling Socrates that he was the wisest man on earth. Socrates replied her: All that I know is that I know Nothing. The best one could do is to know oneself, is to know one is and he went further to say that " The unexamined life, is not worth Living" hence the essence of self-knowledge, self-awareness, self-examination and self-evaluation. 

To become what I am, I must be clear about what I want to become. Goals setting is absolutely necessary. I must know the target am shooting at.

So many persons are not their real self, they play roles. whether we are or we are not, whatever,we are not an empty sham.

 A somewhat, trinity we are at some instances "the person one think one is, the person others think one is, and the one God knows one to be

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STEPS TO DISCOVER ONESELF.

                      

THE CHAMPION WITHIN

In a bid to get started  the events of life. I picked up a challenge among several million potential champions in a marathon that lasted for seven (7) days. It indeed was a great hurdle to be recon with, in which life and death could be the consequences.
Life processes begin when a sperm cell fuse with a mature ovum. When the male genital delivers the several million sperms into the vagina during an intercourse. The sperm cells swim along the highly acidic, mucus current of the vagina canal. It undergoes capacitation in which the sperm are activated. The sperm possess the features of a long tail, middle piece and the head. The head contains vesicles containing lytic enzymes (potentials) with which to pierce through the transparent and tough shell (zona pellucida) of the ovum.The middle piece contain as many mitochondria providing power and energy for the sperm, while the tail provide the propelling  means which loco-mote the sperm for as it make a forward saltation. All the sperm cells contain roughly the same amount of these properties. Out of the several millions sperms deposited into the vagina, only one makes it to the ovum to fuse and immediately setting a bandwagon and hindrances for others not to fuse-The cortical reaction. It was never predetermined for that sperm to get to the ovum before other million sperms. But was divinely orchestrated. That divine orchestration is you and I. That means you were never a mistake to be born into this life. The probability that you were that unique sperm cell that made it to the ovum was the marvelous act of God. Juxtaposing it, if you had had several millions siblings , they would have still have been different from you. So why the unnecessary comparison arising between you and others? Everyone is uniquely born with a seed of greatness so discover yours and stop living the life of others. Single out yourself in a crowd. Dare to be different and do things your own way. Don't be a copy cat of other people's life. Have the consciousness that if had made it at the beginning; you can still do better now. So live the life of original and not the carbon copy of another. Refuse to believe the lies that someone else is better than you are. But if you found a good seed in others never hesitate to compliment them. All you got to do is discover yourself. Bring out that unique feature from the inside and capitalize on them. Never allow fear to ruin you. For it doesn’t exist. Strive to live for something, if you’re not going to fall for anything. Distinguish and develop yourself wherever you are. All those who compare themselves to others end up a failure, if at all anything good a carbon copy. You were born original, so don’t live the spurious life. You have won before, and you can win again. There are something common to those who distinguished themselves to which includes: time management, persistent development, determination, acceptance of failure and making a conscious effort to bracing up. There is more to life than the failures and troubles of the day. Have the right mental attitude toward whatever seed you discover in your and make a persistent and unrelenting effort to growing and developing it. Change is constant in life. Be that change you want to see in others and the world at large. Raise your head high and say to yourself I will be great no matter my now. I will get to my destination and end half way. If me (sperm) got to the ovum at my beginning there is nothing that could withhold me of that fact.

EHIS' ORDEAL

EPISODE -1

Today’s Sunday service was splendiferous. Amongst other things, the sermon had been one deserving some measure of praise. The preacher had talked on an idea he embodied in a theme topic; “THE TWO WAYS” and had taken his text from the book of Matthew 7:13. While the sermon was on, I had taken the pain to look around the church auditorium and I saw the grimaces that characterize the faces of some persons. The preacher took time to explain the two ways. According to him, one was narrow and lead to life and the other broad which lead to destruction. The preacher was explicit in his discourse without apology to anyone. This particular realization appealed to me quiet much. As the usual rite of the service was done with, everyone depending on his or her condition had a change of mind. I could sensed it from their guise as they heeded the alter call. It was now time to leave for various homes as the church had dismissed. Some brethren and I went in the same route, since we were all aiming for the same bearing. Unfortunately for me, just as the preacher had preached earlier that some who were in the faith departed, as they could not stand the passion of the contrary. For me, I left the brethren not for the sake of departing from the faith but for the fact that I was not buoyant enough to take the normal commuter bus and I headed my own way without adumbrating to the brethren my true motive as I could not swallow the stigma of mendicancy.
Not long enough, the unsympathetic Benin weather tainted and the sky soon became dark, as I walked a small distance, it started drizzling. I started flitting around to veil myself from the luscious rain in a rather partially completed building. Before long, it started to rain violently and the wind that accompanied it, was not in good spirits. The trees had done all they could towards breaking it, but it proved bungled. This time only those with umbrella could journey through the pelter while those without were coerced vehemently to hiding themselves. The young man EHIS was not left out of those in search of refuge under the partially completed building as he was lightly drenched by the rain. I looked at him as he struggle to climbed the corridor case with his unconsolidated lower limbs, while supporting himself with his hands which were conspicuously deformed. His mouth bent toward undefined angle and his hair unkempt. He wore the indigenous sewed shirt and trouser, milky in color with red star shapes on it. On his lightly deformed toes were pairs of slipper. I was totally hardhearted as I could not even say to him how sorry I was, for his state. The down pour was actually my problem at the moment as it had disrupted my good deal to get to school in approximately 30 minutes time.
It was still raining when a young girl with a baby on her back was passing-by. Suddenly a lady which stood beside Ehis at the partially completed building called at her and quickly ran to meet her. As she got to where she was, she grabbed her umbrella from her held it over both herself and the young damsel, surprisingly leaving the baby who indeed needed the umbrella the most rather UNCOVERED.
Ehis quickly said “the umbrella no cover the baby ooh”. “Can you imagine, I added” some persons value themselves at the expense of another. This time I just have to meddle into other people’s affair to temperate my gnashing teeth due to chilly weather. This gave Ehis an edge to speak to me as we have been hiding from the rain for a while.
As he spoke; I listened. He began by peeking to the sky and accentuating “THANK GOD AM ALIVE TODAY”. He further stated that, just this morning a little boy of about six years old was slapped by an elderly woman who came out of her house. This Ehis did by gesticulation in a bid to describe the boy’s height; he continue by saying there is God in heaven. God knows how to deal with reprobate and he instantly gave the woman her judgment as she was about to take a forward leap from the site she slapped the little boy. She was knocked down by a vehicle and she was quickly rushed to the hospital. When asked why she slapped the boy, her reply was “I tell am say make the sweep house before going to play, he nor greeee!” That was an instant judgment on her he reiterated.

As he was about initiating his next statement, he came nearer to my standing position. I became skeptical about Ehis, because I had learnt the first lesson of my life from the so called sharp guys(four-one-nine) who dupe me of my school fee earlier this year.

I met my hard knocks the period I gained admission into the University and I was to accept it simply by paying the sum of twenty five thousand (25,000) before proceeding with clearance. I smiled to the bank the morning I was to pay the fee. I gentlemanly boarded a commuter bus which stops over a little distance away from my school at the proximal bus stop. On coming down from the bus, a well dressed man walked up to me. My name is John okeagu. I am an importer and I have a chemical that could turned us into a millionaire if I corporate with him by contributing some just forty thousand to get more of the chemical to wash all the paper he had. He looked for a more convincing way by washing one of the papers he had with the chemical and behold a brand new N1000 note with a glossy look materialized. I became interested before long, and I gave the John my fee of 25,000 including my 500 transport fare. John told me he was going to buy the chemical and I waited and waited till I was tired. I mourned home. Ever since I had told myself that no four-one-nine was going to swindle me any longer.
But with Ehis condition, could he be one of these felons. I thought to myself in awe. I won’t allow to be fooled the second time by such a person as Ehis. 419 in a bid to dupe their prey they often starts with enticing stories and questions that demands an answer before they strike with their seemingly unapologetic and unarmed robbery.
Ehis touched me for the first time with his deformed hands and said ‘’I want to tell you something’’. My heart palpitated and my eyes were bulging and my mood suddenly changed. I quickly said some prayers within my mind.

THE LOVE THAT SUPERSEDE ALL

There's no true love outside Christ, all that exists is infatuation, lust et cetera. People from all walks of life will always want something in return for their kind gesture. But true love does exist. It springs out of a

caring heart filled with grace and mercy. This the true love that bind man to God and as well man to man .This kind of a heart will always overlook whatever wrong done by any party. It is patient and enduring,understanding humanity in different dimension. It heals faster than any medicines and is devoid of dissimulation. What the world need is LOVE.
The true love is Agape. This is what Christ suffered for and it is the sure re-conciliating gift of God to humanity. The subject of love have been misunderstood with mere human affection arising from crush from which feelings are met to sprung into actions that could drastically leads to immorality among the SINGLES.

As  young adults, life should be centered on knowing God personally as well as to pleasing him at all costs. When God is fully the controlling factor in ones life, that could eventually lead to one pleasing him and not the opposite. Serving God at this end time with love in our heart could amount to his been pleased with us. love is not a function of our will but it is God working in us. leaving the loving life of God requires us to be save from sin by confessing and repenting from them. The Lust odd in the life of a true believer of God and so, one must make conscious effect to be saved by confessing Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior and totally leaving the entangling life of sin.

   THE BEAUTIFUL ATTRIBUTES THAT PLEASE GOD

One of the greatest fruit that the believer must bear is LOVE for it is that which is can serve as ladder to the throne of grace. The believer must know that service to God without love is utterly destructive as it could amount to nothing. This should be in his conscious mind that God is love and they that must please him must do so with Love in return. Love is that fruit that bring closer one to God. If one truly love God he wouldn't do anything to hurt him.

If one must glorify God with one's life, it should be centered on the agape love, for this is the fulfillment of the law 1cor 13:1-13.

Love is patient and kind; it's not jealous or conceited or proud, it's not ill-mannered, or selfish or irritable, it doesn't keeps record of wrongs.

It's Love, that ushered humanity to be engrafted with divine eternity. This our lord Jesus Christ did when he humbly gave himself to be the remedy for the lots of humanity.

For God so loved the world that he gave his only son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life-John 3:16

Love shouldn't be just words and talk. It must be true love, which shows itself in action-1John 3:18.
This is Jesus example, those who don't know love are still under the power of death.
Christ's death is the true definition of what love is! we too then must learn to love and be self sacrificing and ought to give our lives for our brothers and sisters... 1John 3:16

                            GOD IS LOVE
Let love one another, because love comes from God, whoever loves, is a child of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God for God is love ... 1John 4:7-8
As those who possess God's attributes, unconditional love should be highly uphold without dissimulation, presence and bluffing but should be seen in action devoid of eye services.
The concept of Love cannot be over-emphasized and exhausted, because it's life giving virtues and fruit, it's an endless commodity per se, and when rightly shown could amount to crown of life in the world next.
No wonder Paul in his letter to the brethren in Rome, make them fully abreast that God's love for mankind is inseparable.... Romans 8:35-who can separate us from the love of Christ, shall tribulations or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or perils, or sword? Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our lord.
 From the above we see that God's love is Limitless, no infinity in his definition of love, this, we must imbibe to have a world of utopia.
Love for neighbors should be God Centered and Infinite.

Abraham-c demonstration of faith was birthed in his love for God that is why he staggered not at his expression of faith. Human relationships should be hinged on God's love and not the other way round, many have defined love to their taste.
It's love that gives the pauper, the physically challenged, hope.  It is love that make the well to do affects those in utter penury positively. This gives hope to the beggars at the street and children in the inner city.
Love costs less as compared to hatred. Those who keep malice throws stones at others which hurts them. Love expressions can be done in a little or colossal manner. In either case God should be the  the center purpose.Rejoice with them that rejoice without grudges, bitterness in the heart, let it be without murmuring.
Love looks not with the eyes but mind, it's compassionate, enduring and not reluctant to doing what is right.

Let's love lead in our hearts!

OUR LOVE CAN NEVER BE

Sometimes we come across people we like hoping that they would like us back. But however, this person might just be so wounded from past relationships that at the moment they are emotionally unavailable and have baggage so full it can fill an airport terminal. Even with that, we tend to think that perhaps with us it just might be different…why? Because you think you can see past their problems, and see potential in them….But hey

That’s the problem….

When someone isn't ready to be in a relationship, or they seem to have limited access to their emotions, or they seem to be terrified of intimacy to the point where they get clammy at the thought of commitment, at that point, it doesn't matter if your love is as big as an ocean or comes in a platinum case with a nice bow on it promising the sun, moon and stars or even the world. If they say they don’t want it…they just don’t want it simples. Nothing you can do about that. It doesn't matter who you are or the kind of love you offer..at that point, you could be anyone and until they resolve their issues, you will not extract a loving relationship from them. As the saying goes ‘you can drag a horse to the river, but you can’t force it to drink’

You may see past their problems and feel that you love them in spite of their baggage and may see yourself as all loving and caring and all the nice things you think you and your love can offer, but how you see you, is not how they see you.

No matter what you say or do, they perceive you, by the very fact that you’re either in a relationship with them, or hankering for one, that you want, need, or expect more than they’re prepared to be wanted, needed, and expected from.

If you've been with a Mr or Mrs unavailable, you won’t be the first person that has ever felt something for them.

Sometimes, we make the mistake of expending copious amounts of energy ‘running on the spot’ by investing ourselves and emotions into limited relationships with people that have a limited ability and capacity for love, which in turn creates a limited result.

You don’t want to be an equivalent of that pushy used car salesman that doesn't know when to back off. It doesn't translate well to relationships.

If they can’t see past their problems and insecurities, what is the point in you doing it for them? You can’t do all the loving, security, responsibility, accountability, trusting, caring, and respecting in the relationship.

They don’t have to want your love. This is not a yard sale where you think ‘it’s cheap! Someone should want it!’ ehn ehn.

The moment someone doesn't want you, you need to be asking yourself why you’re still wanting them. Period. Now don’t get me wrong, this doesn't mean you should switch off your feelings automatically but you should be coming back to earth at this point with a very loud, resounding bump.

Alarm bells should be ringing! If they’re not -my alarm bells are ringing for you!

More importantly, don’t treat your love like a hot potato that you can’t wait to offload and certainly don’t put your life on hold because you’re stuck ‘loving’ someone that doesn't love you. Their lack of interest is a red flag….Use it to extricate yourself out of what will become an even more painful situation if you don’t back off. There is better out there for you…best believe it.   

As usual stay beautiful.